The Single Season: A Gift I Didn’t Know I Needed (Yes…Really!)

Ladies, let me pull up my chair and grab a cup of coffee because this discussion has been in my heart for a minute! We don’t talk enough about being satisfied with singleness. Not just surviving singlehood. Not just “waiting well.” I mean actually waking up, inhaling God’s goodness, and saying, “Lord, I am single and I’m whole… right now.” 

Listen, I know the tension. We can love Jesus with our whole chest and still feel that quiet desire for companionship. There’s no shame in wanting partnership. Indeed, God wired us for intimacy and connection. Yet sometimes that desire starts ‘acting up,’ trying to convince us that we’re missing something, lacking something, or falling behind. In those moments, we must firmly correct that thought. We have to treat that thought like a toddler headed for time out, sit it down, look it in the eye, and firmly say, “No ma’am… not today.” 

Here’s what God has been whispering to me: Satisfaction isn’t the absence of desire. It’s the presence of trust. 

Trust that God knows the full map of our lives. Trust that He’s not stingy. Trust that He’s not late. Trust that He knows the version of us that’s still becoming, and He’s working with that girl in mind. 

The Clarifying Season of Singleness: Singleness Is Not a Pause Button

And honestly? Singleness has become one of the most clarifying seasons of my life. Not always easy but deeply clarifying. When you’re single, God places a mirror in front of you, not to expose you, but to grow you. He reveals who you are becoming, what you have healed from, what you are still carrying, and what you now desire versus what you once settled for. 

We often rush past this season because we treat it like a holding pattern circling in the sky until God gives us clearance to land. But baby… what if this is the runway? What if ‘Singleness’ is where God strengthens your identity, deepens your voice, expands your vision, and sharpens your standards so that any future relationship must rise to the level of what God has already built in you? 

I had to remind myself: I’m not waiting to be chosen. I’m already chosen. I’m not waiting to be loved. I’m already loved. I’m not waiting to be affirmed. God affirms me every single morning with breath and purpose. 

Does that mean I don’t desire companionship? No. But it does mean I refuse to treat marriage like a trophy at the end of a race I never signed up to run. I also refuse to believe that God’s goodness begins after marriage, when His goodness has been sustaining me this whole time. 

Unwrapping the Gift of Singleness

So, to every single woman, let’s breathe. Let’s live fully. Let’s take ourselves out on dates, build our careers, nurture our purpose, do the healing work, book the trip, buy the flowers, laugh loudly, and pursue God boldly. Not to prove independence, but to honor the season God has entrusted to us.  

And when love comes, it will meet a woman who is full, not empty, whole, not waiting for someone to complete her, satisfied, and not settling. 

Ladies, your singleness is not a gap, it is a gift, and you get to unwrap it every day.  

Until our next cup, 

TL Watson  

About the Author: TL Watson is a speaker, coach, and faith writer who equips women and leaders to rise, heal, and embrace God’s best for their lives. She blends life experience, spiritual insight, and practical wisdom to inspire growth in every season.